Hi. My name is Heather and I'm addicted to Snickers peanut butter bites. I believe I would choose them over Reese's peanut butter cups.
I know. I'm waiting for the lightening to strike.
I was just talking to someone about what assholes teenage girls can be. I mean puberty + estrogen = assholery. I only came across girls being assholes to me a couple of times in high school. At least that I found out about. Once was because I was dating a boy the girl liked so she and all her friends decided to not like me. Standard stuff.
But one time, I can totally see the girl's perspective. Now I can, anyway.
Suddenly, one of my close friends at school, K, hated me and made sure I knew it. I had no idea why so I basically just avoided her and ignored her. It saddened me though. But she started making enough waves within our groups and within the school I had to find out what happened.
Seems K was witness to my mom and me talking about M. M is from an upper middle class family and was pretty much spoiled. As most people are to some degree or another. The difference between M and me was that my 16th birthday I got a 1969 Volkswagen Beetle and for hers, she got a brand new Mustang convertible. I can't remember the conversation but apparently it revolved around us discussing how spoiled M was (pot...meet kettle). I guess it might have sounded snarky, and I wouldn't be surprised if some envy in the form of snark didn't come out. BUT, I never said anything about M behind her back that I wouldn't say to her face.
Now, I can see why she would be mad and dislike me. I find it actually noble that she had no time for someone she perceived to be an asshole and called them on it. I like that in a person. But what would have been better would be if she had come to me instead of making it a public spectacle and I could have told her it's nothing I wouldn't say, hadn't said, to M. M knew she was spoiled and she relished it, as she should. And her friends got to enjoy the fruits of that as well so, while I may have had moments of envy, I still loved her. Still do, though I haven't talked to her since college. She never threw her advantages in people's faces that I remember. She was very sweet and generous, with material things as well as with emotions and friendships, etc. So I hope even in my moments of envy I was always kind to/about her.
I hate that K had the wrong impression of me because it did strain our friendship and I lost out on some great qualities in a friend. Many if I recall. Girl was as HILARIOUS as she was sweet and pretty. And loyal in the face of assholery. I don't think we were ever estranged, but things were different after that, if I recall.
I did see K on FB a bazillion years later but she disappeared. I think I will see if I can find her again.
I know. I'm waiting for the lightening to strike.
I was just talking to someone about what assholes teenage girls can be. I mean puberty + estrogen = assholery. I only came across girls being assholes to me a couple of times in high school. At least that I found out about. Once was because I was dating a boy the girl liked so she and all her friends decided to not like me. Standard stuff.
But one time, I can totally see the girl's perspective. Now I can, anyway.
Suddenly, one of my close friends at school, K, hated me and made sure I knew it. I had no idea why so I basically just avoided her and ignored her. It saddened me though. But she started making enough waves within our groups and within the school I had to find out what happened.
Seems K was witness to my mom and me talking about M. M is from an upper middle class family and was pretty much spoiled. As most people are to some degree or another. The difference between M and me was that my 16th birthday I got a 1969 Volkswagen Beetle and for hers, she got a brand new Mustang convertible. I can't remember the conversation but apparently it revolved around us discussing how spoiled M was (pot...meet kettle). I guess it might have sounded snarky, and I wouldn't be surprised if some envy in the form of snark didn't come out. BUT, I never said anything about M behind her back that I wouldn't say to her face.
Now, I can see why she would be mad and dislike me. I find it actually noble that she had no time for someone she perceived to be an asshole and called them on it. I like that in a person. But what would have been better would be if she had come to me instead of making it a public spectacle and I could have told her it's nothing I wouldn't say, hadn't said, to M. M knew she was spoiled and she relished it, as she should. And her friends got to enjoy the fruits of that as well so, while I may have had moments of envy, I still loved her. Still do, though I haven't talked to her since college. She never threw her advantages in people's faces that I remember. She was very sweet and generous, with material things as well as with emotions and friendships, etc. So I hope even in my moments of envy I was always kind to/about her.
I hate that K had the wrong impression of me because it did strain our friendship and I lost out on some great qualities in a friend. Many if I recall. Girl was as HILARIOUS as she was sweet and pretty. And loyal in the face of assholery. I don't think we were ever estranged, but things were different after that, if I recall.
I did see K on FB a bazillion years later but she disappeared. I think I will see if I can find her again.
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